Mixed signals from ex boyfriend?

I think he loves you but he can't fix the relationship until he fixes himself.. hence he's seeing a therapist. Stick by him. He's taking steps to better himself so that he can be a better person and a better partner. Once he is comfortable with who he is again, he will come back to you. Don't try to MAKE him want you back. If you push him and he gives in you'll ruin the progress he's making within himself. When he feels like he's better and he can handle a relationship, he'll let you know. If he does get stuck wherever he is for 3 years and you really want to be with him, maybe you should think about relocating when he's ready.